Safety Rules For Long Distance Relationships

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I don’t advise people to move or give up everything to relocate until you have known someone for at least two-five years or longer in a long distance relationship.

There are plenty of people that want to rush relationships. Of course you know nothing about these people unless you’ve taken the time to gain as much information as you can.

You really need to know someone else that can verify who this person is, and that has known this person for a long period of time. This may be a friend, sister, brother, father, or mother.

You should always wait to see if they have photographs of themselves and family members over a few years. They should be able to produce this over time if they are honest people.

You should be able to see them on cam, hear their voice, and verify who they are with photographs that match who they are in the cam, and their voice. For example, in Nigeria, they may take a pic of an American, call you and have a nigerian voice. It doesn’t match.

Red flag: If they are hiding themselves from seeing their face it is because they are deceptive, and not telling you the truth. If they won’t allow you to hear their voice or show you pictures, it is the same. People hide and deceive, change pictures, and do not reveal who they are for various reasons. One being they may be married, or already have a relationship. Another being they want your money and to scam you. Some know how to work the system, and the more proof you have to verify who they are the better.

Never give out your real name, location, or information about you unless you’ve known this person for over two years, or know someone like I said above who can verify who they are. You’re safety is more important than ending up in human trafficking, or simply being used for money, or sex.

You do have to use common sense, and learn the ropes of the internet, be smart and aware. We can be very naive, and taken for a ride.

If someone is controlling, abusive, manipulaing online, that is a good sign they are offline. If they have a temper and filled with anger online, they are offline. If they’re cheating online, they are offline.

It doesn’t matter how you feel about this person, or what attachments you have made recognize there are always nice people, but they also can be very unhealthy. Abuse is not love.

If you really want to meet someone and your a woman make sure they come to your area after knowing them for over a year. I don’t advise woman to travel alone, or go to another country or location. If this is truly a gentlemen he will come visit you and meet your family.

Always let other people know you are talking to this person, and show them pictures, and location. Never hide long distance relationships from your family and friends. You don’t want to be on a missing persons list.