When 'Giving' Does Not Always Equate 'Receiving'

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“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” – Anthony Robbins

I do so believe this statement of Mr. Robbins’.

But, there are oftentimes relationships that we must face where this just does not happen. Especially in the circumstances where there is a one-sided relationship. One or the other stays on the ‘receiving’ end of things, and not so much the giving end. And the giver does give their all, even to the point of losing themselves within the relationship and giving to the point of selflessness. This is often done, thinking that the more that is given, the more one will be loved and have their own needs met. Don’t confuse your own feelings of needing love and wanting to perceive ‘being loved’ with how much of yourself you ‘give’ towards this .. Love cannot be bought, bartered or gained in that way; not love of the genuine and lasting kind. If someone is not in love with you.. you cannot force them to be. No matter what you do, if the love is not there, and whether or not you sense this.. you cannot ‘make’ it be there by overlooking yourself and continually putting that other person ahead of yourself. Don’t make the mistake of believing that you can ‘change’ someone in that way .. if you choose to believe this, you are likely setting yourself up to be hurt and even devastated. And that’s just the way of life.

Always put love of SELF first on your life’s agenda … and RESPECT of self is equally as important. People love people who love themselves .. respect people who respect themselves. And in fitting with the Law of Attraction .. it is that ‘self love’ and ‘self-respect’ that you exude into the world that does, in turn, attract that same love and respect from others.