Focus on the solution not the problems

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Life should be fun and enjoyable. We don’t have to take everything so serious all the time. We should drop resentment, hurt, and anger. We have trouble communicating ourselves with other people. We don’t always take responsibility for what we feel, because we are judging ourselves, or listening to someone else judge us.

We should feel good about ourselves regardless of what others say or do in our lives. We have to find ways to vent those feelings without becoming frustrated, or abusing ourselves or other people. We are still back there where a certain situation occurred. We are living in the past instead of the present. We focus on the ill feelings instead of releasing them and allowing ourselves to move forward and focusing on something better.

Speaking about it, doesn’t make it go away, it keeps your focus on the situation. We are concentrating to long on what is not working for us in the moment. We are not standing up for ourselves, and taking the appropriate action to lift us out of that frame of mind, and experience.

We are not thinking about what we want to communicate to others, or how to manifest what we desire to accomplish in our lives. If we feel relief to get it off our chest that is wonderful, but at the same time it doesn’t solve the problem. It brings you into the victim mentality, and doesn’t propel you into a moment of searching for a solution to the problem.

We are making up excuses of why we are not doing what we should to make things better. We are not getting in alignment with what we truly want to experience by complaining and nagging about how old and bad it is for us. We have to become a survivor, and seek the answers to how this situation can become better. What do we need to do to improve the situation? What changes need to be made? Are we resistant to these changes? Why are we resistant to these changes? How does this person make us feel? Is it a safe place for us?

What can you do about it? What can you do? What is in your power to change about yourself and your circumstances? Using someone else, or blaming them for things will not make things better. We have to take responsibility for our part and leave the rest to the other person. We can not change the other person. We are powerless over what a person thinks, feels, believes, or does. We have control over ourselves. We have to give up the thought and belief that we need to struggle with them to change them or our experience. Most likely they will not change just because we want them too. Change what you can and make those positive changes, and stop struggling with others to change. We are only giving away our energy and beating our heads up against a wall expecting others to change to meet our needs and desires.