Admitting you have to be the one to change Part II

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Heavenly Sunshine (heavenlyarchangel12)

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7.) When you are online with another person on a social network site, or virtual reality game you are experiencing real feelings, and emotions. You are also attaching yourself, and although the person is not in your physical sphere, the emotional ties can be a lot stronger and happen faster. When you are online you are having an emotional affair whether you want to admit it or not. Many people get addicted to the internet, because they are getting the emotional attachment they are not from their partners offline. In other words you are seeking true intimacy, but it can not be found if you are with more than one person in your life. Fortunately you have to understand that having relationships online stops you from having a lasting long term relationship with the person standing in front of you. If you’re not present now in the moment, you maybe losing the best relationship you can ever have. Start investing your time wisely in someone that can give something back to you.

8.) Most men and women have the same emotinal, spiritual,mental, and physical needs, they are just not being honest with themselves or each other. Beating around the bush and being afraid to express themselves, you only hinder yourself and your partner from truly being intimate by not allowing your partner to be truly themselves. You have to accept their faults as well as their good habits.

10.)If you are in a relationship with someone that is addicted to alcohol or drugs it is a long battle, and one that is not easily fought. This affects your well being in all aspects of your life. It is your choice whether you want to choose to live in a world that is thrown into chaos and confusion at a moments notice. Here you are learning co-dependent behaviors, playing mind games with each other, pulling each others emotional strings, and toying with each other through power and control. This is not a healthy relationship and is based on fear, intimidation, manipulation, and control in all aspects. Domestic violence becomes a habit and cycle. It is hard to leave without someone getting hurt in more ways than one. It is difficult for most to leave the situation without finding courage and strength in themselves to say “NO” and leave the situation. Setting boundaries is tough, and something you have to work on every day of your life.

11. How bad do you want a relationship that works out? It depends on how badly you want to succeed in life. Relationships will have their ups and downs, and obstacles will always come your way. If you’re not willing to do the work, of course the relationship becomes stagnate, and old.

12. What relationship habits have you formed over the years. Were your parents married and divorced several times, and so you learned over time when things get hard to quit and give up on another person? If so perhaps you should ask yourself if you can manage to stay long enough to find out the truth about relationships.

13. What kind of men and women do you date anyway? Do they do drugs? Do they drink all the time? Do they flirt! Do they cheat! Are they seductive? Do they lie about everything.

14. We have people out there that feel being a fictional character is better than being their trueselves. Fortunately being deceptive about who you are, only comes back to bite you in the butt. There is no reason to lie to people or cheat. Life is not a game, and although we feel we can justify why we hide things, it only hurts ourselves and other people in the long run.

15. Just because people say nice things, dress nice, and act nice doesn’t mean they’re nice people. Actions always tell you what kind of person you are dating. How they treat their friends, their family, and even their parents demonstrates whether they are filled with a loving heart.