Becoming A Virtuous Woman
10 months ago
Becoming A Virtuous Woman
Loving yourself is the key to being a virtuous women. We are all beautiful creatures inside or ourselves, but from childhood on our families and friends have molded us into their belief systems, and ways of living.
What if we found out we were more beautiful than we ever imagined. We jus let others fill our mnds with negativity most of her lives.
Some how we got lost in the shuffle, we are all diamonds in the rough. We all deserve to be loved for who we are. We as women need find ourselves day by day, one step at a time.
Of course we want to be loved and treasured, but most of the time we are looking for love in the wrong places, instead of ourselves. We look outward for approval and acceptance, instead of inward for all the answers.
When we believe in ourselves and eachother as woman we begin realising we have many talents, gifts, and love to share with others.
No one really loved you because they didn’t know how to love themselves. Most of us only know love in a limited perspective. We fail to realize that love is far greater than we have ever imagined. In some ways we are like catapillars, crawling slowly and softly against the hard pavement, and it takes so much energy and strength just to get through the day.
When we strip ourselves of all the garbage we’ve stored up inside of us than we emerge in the coccoon in a safe place and we learn to transform into that beautiful butterfly one day and fly free.
We want to be loved by men, but most of the time we have been hurt by so many people we are filled with anger and bitterness instead of healthy love for another person. Not just us, but men also are in the same place.
It is understanding that we have a role and purpose in men’s lives, and it’s not to change them, or make them into who we feel they need to be for us. We must learn to leave them be where they are in the moment. Let them be there own diamond in the rough.
We can complain about men, and pretend that they are at fault and blame them for everything. It takes two people in a relationship to succeed.
The first person that needs to change is ourselves, our own beliefs, perspectives, and ideas about men, and ourselves.
To be loved we have to give love first, to recieve love we have to be loveable to others. If we sit around and complain and make blame everything on men than we fail to realize our part we play in it.
Men only respond to us the way we react towards them. We reap what we sow. What we give we receive. If we are yelling and screaming at a man, he will back away, because he fears you. Men don’t like to be the target for hostility and anger. It wounds them and bruises them.
Men want to know you adore them, appreciate them, look up to them. They want to be your protector, provider, and strength. Men appreciate women that accept them for who they are. They don’t want to be changed, but only changed if it is by their own accord, or choice.
As woman we have to realise we have no reason to be jealous of another woman. We are all unique and precious in our being. There is no other woman on this planet like you. No other woman that thinks like you, or talks like you, looks like you. You are individually designed, there is no competition but in your own mind.
Every realationship will not work out, and some will work out. Most of the time you can consider them as your teacher in life for the moment to help you become the person you were meant to be in this life time. There are many lessons we must live and learn.
Some of these lessons are hard, and painful. Some of them are joyful and blissful. We each come from different backgrounds, different cultures, countries, nationalities, and races.
It’s really about excepting our differences, and pulling out the best in each of us. We each have our own stories and experiences we have lived through out our lives.
No one has walked through our shoes, or been where we have. Yet we tend to judge ourselves and each other. We are all human and we are all learning together. Making mistakes is part of life, and instead of aiming hatred and bitterness towards our sisters and brothers in life, we must face ourselves and make that first change in ourselves.
We have to step up to the plate and make a difference in this world by doing our best to love instead of hate. This usually consists of realizing our words, our tone of voice, our actions and behaviors all effect each other.
If we don’t care to change ourselves how do we expect others to change for the better. It starts with you, and only you can change you, no one else.
To be a woman of virtue that stands up for something, you must step up to the plate, and be different from any other woman on the planet by changing your attitude, your voice, your perspective about yourself, the world, and men. To find Love you must become love itself.
© Trademark Hattiemattiemae Spiritweaver, Rose Among Thorns, February 7, 2011