Bad Relationships – Warning Signs and How to Deal with them

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You are together in the eyes of the world; a couple. But do you feel like a couple? Even if one partner does not, it is a wake-up call. Every couple goes through highs and lows, but the reason people stick together is because that inner fire does not extinguish. Yet there are times, when one of us willingly takes that pail of water and douses the fire. In spite of it all if we continue to stay on together, it is time to evaluate what kind of a relationship we are in. Colour coding your relationship as completely black or white is a mistake. In a relationship, there is also an area called the grey area. This is where partners make mistakes, need encouragement and sometimes forgiveness. But there are times when you may find yourself questioning your partner’s behavior and wonder if it is acceptable. Does he/she intentionally hurt you? You want to believe that they are not doing it on purpose, but then, your mind seems to constantly be in a battle. So when can you tell if you are having a bad relationship?

1.Actions Speak Louder Than Words A good point to start is to read the signs. When things start to go awry, there are always tell-tale signs that you can pick up and decode for yourself. Sometimes we tend to believe that our partner is a good person but when their behavior starts to consistently contradict your own judgments, it should be a clear and obvious sign that, sadly, you do not matter to your partner anymore. He/She may not be interested in taking care of you or simply being there for you. Frequent broken promises also indicate that your partner is emotionally disconnected or unavailable. When in doubt on whether to give up or to give in, trust your assessment of your partner’s actions, because in times like these, words can be deceiving.

2.Making Excuses If you find yourself making excuses to justify your partner’s behavior, it is an obvious indication that the behavior is unacceptable. Tolerating, or covering up for bad behavior towards a partner, on account of past relationships or a tough childhood, is a gross violation of self-esteem. Before you feel compassion toward others, make sure that you don’t get lost yourself, trying to love someone else.

3.Lying Lying is very normal, but if it happens constantly, it is not healthy for the relationship. Your partner has a right to know what goes on in your life, and to be with you in all your happy as well as sad moments. However, deception indicates that you have secrets to hide.

4.Unwilling to Mend Ways If a certain behavior has caused hurt and angst to one partner, and yet the other partner continues on his/her ways, it means that either you are being taken for granted, or the partner simply doesn’t care. Take for instance a case of cheating. If you want the relationship, chances are that you will forgive him/her. But if you ever happen to find them cheating again, then you should walk out that very instant.

5.Recurrent Miscommunication If small arguments are leading to big issues, perhaps both partners are having a hard time communicating. This element is the crux of a good relationship. Communication helps build bridges and openness and willingness to communicate is also a sign of mutual trust.

6.Sexual Compatibility Sex enhances relationships as through a good healthy sex life you can remain emotionally & physically intimate with your partner. You need to have an acceptance that it is entirely normal in long term relationships for what you had at the very beginning will change; habits form, the fires start to cool. Rather than ignore this consider taking time to discuss your needs and desires and your partners working together to find a balance that suits both of you.

7.Disrespect Every person has weaknesses, and any disrespect to the individual accruing through these should be deemed unacceptable. What you did in your past relationships, or your shortcomings, should never be brought into present day conversations. You and you partner are each others pillars of trust and support, and when one of these begins to falter, read it as a relationship gone sour. Unless there is respect for one another, a relationship can never grow.

It is always a good idea to be open and discuss any issues you may be having with your partner. If that communication line is broken, discuss with family or friends. Keeping mum and retaining a bad relationship can ruin your own life and be an impediment to your aspirations. Being mistreated yet sticking around should never be taken as a sign of being courageous or of being a survivor. Once you know that your relationship is doing you more harm than good, it is best to pack those bags and walk away.

For an in depth review of your relationship and where it looks to be going using the Power of the Playing cards via my psychic abilities to connect to you reach out and speak to me. If you are yet to meet your ideal Soul Mate let us look together and get a sense of what is on the horizon of your life in terms of love.

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