Where is your focus?

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Where is your focus at? Is it in the past. The past becomes a dead end. It becomes your hang up. The past holds alot of life lessons and yes, you can reflect on the lessons. You can also dwell on the past failures and mistakes. Focusing on the past you get stuck.

Is your focus on the future outcome? Well we can focus so much on what we’d like the future to be, we forget what we can do in this moment. It would be nice if our lives were perfect, but there is so many life lessons to learn in this moment of every day. We search for perfection, and really life is imperfect.

Seeking a perfect life is unrealistic. We can push ourselves to the limits. Push others to the limits. Some will even be harsh. We want results now. We become demanding. We become impatient.

The only moment you really have to do anything is this moment right now. We waste alot of time and energy on thoughts about the past and the future. Our focus is else where. It’s kind of like being left feild on the baseball feild. The ball can come flying at you, but you’ll miss it because you are in the past or the future.

You might say well I missed in the past. I’ll miss it this time. It will always be that way. This is not the truth. It is a selffulfilling prophecy when we believe past failures will appear again. Why do they appear again? Because you believe it will happen again.

You didn’t take the time to practice. You didn’t take the time to learn what you needed to know. You may have even been day dreaming about how you would like things to be instead of paying attention right now.

Every time you focus your attention on the past and your former ex you miss the opportunity to learn something now, and prepare yourself for the person that walks into your life. Instead of being stuck learn something about yourself and past mistakes. Why did you make those mistakes and how can you change things so you have a better chance next time.

Practice makes perfect and you don’t need an ex to practice. Every realtionship in front of you gives you the opportunity to communicate, express yourself in a negative or positive way. You react and act certain ways, and your response is literally the same and triggered by different people. Use everyone to master your relationship skills. Learn to be diplomatic, patient, understanding, and compassionate.

Isn’t that what you and your partner need? Learn to listen. Learn to compromise. Learn to be independent instead of codependent. Learn to stand on your own and stop playing the victim. We can feel like a victim in any relationship, need to be rescued, and of course you know their are plenty of people that judge and criticize.

Learn to stay neutral and objective. Learn to stand your ground and set boundaries. The personal power is in you, but you have to make the choice to be serious about your life and stay focused.

If you want to succeed you will find the drive and determination inside to go the extra mile to have the kind of life you want to live. No one can do it for you. You either choose to live in the victim mentality or you choose to be a survivor.

Learn to keep your focus on the goal. What is it that you truly want in life and how do you get there. You can go around in circles or you can make a new path and learn something new. Leave the past where it is and allow the future to unfold day by day. Live in the now and create your future moment by moment.